The First Day of Your Surrogacy Journey – Consult Day

The Consult Day is all about launching into your surrogacy journey.

In some ways, it’s the day when your surrogacy journey really starts. For both surrogates and intended parents, the Consult Day helps ground your vision for the days ahead so that your dreams become a reality.

During your consultation, you’ll talk about your hopes and dreams. You will also talk about the nitty gritty details of what it takes to get to one of the biggest days of your life — delivery day — and beyond.

Both surrogates and intended parents will have their own Consult Days. This is totally separate from another beautiful day — the Match Meeting. (More on that later).

What Happens During Consult Day? 

Every agency’s Consult Day will be different. What you should expect is a deep dive into important aspects of your surrogacy journey that will take between 2 and 3 hours to complete. You will also tackle some tough technical stuff. There are so many details, many you probably haven’t heard before, but don’t worry — that’s what the surrogacy agency is there for. You’ll walk through the medical process, the legal process, the parentage agreement, financial arrangements, the role of your medical insurance for this process, and more. At this point in the Consult Day your head might be spinning with details, but don’t worry. The agency is there for you every step of the way.

One big part of the day is spent preparing for your match when a surrogate is introduced to her intended parents. It is not an overstatement to say that during surrogacy itself, the cornerstone relationship is the one between surrogates and intended parents. Every relationship looks different, but the Consult Day is designed to help you ask all the questions you can think to ask. The agency will make sure you are considering the relationship from all angles, and talk about your expectations and priorities for who you want to work with .

You should feel well informed and more prepared with a lot of information that will give clarity on some of the more complicated parts of the process. You should write down any questions you have in advance, and bring them with you to Consult Day!

After Consult Day, the goal is for you to understand what to expect from the matching process and all the support you’ll  get to make sure you have an amazing match.

Finally, at the end of the Consult Day, you’ll walk away with a plan. You’ll set out your intentions for your surrogacy journey, action steps for you to take, and all of the ways you can get support during this journey.

While it is complex, you get to spend this day with professionals who help you dream up the months to come and the day when a beautiful baby is delivered for a beautiful family.